We all watched the life and death of Michael Jackson with embarrassed fascination. He seems like he tried everything life had to offer: fame, sex, money, drugs, and two adopted children. However, he died starved for love, empty, unsatisfied and surrounded by a group of human vultures who never loved him, only used him.
But you don’t have to be beautiful, rich, or famous to be starved for love. Many people walk silently screaming, “For God’s sake, someone won’t just love me. Love me, that’s all I need.”
Hollywood recognizes this sad dilemma, so it makes cheesy movies about love and millions watch them. Silly songs are written about love, and we sing them. In our search for love we go through a variety of manipulations and machinations to get someone to love us!
Why did we go through all this? For one simple reason: God placed within each of us a human-shaped void that can only be filled by another person. Substitutes like money, sports, hobbies, fame, busy schedules, and even significant accomplishments can’t come close to filling the void of having someone to love.
If you are bummed out for love, I am here to cheer you up. Love is possible because all people are born with the ability to love. But love is not about yourself, it is about others. Those who only love themselves are childish in their emotional maturity. Until a person learns to love others, they will be hopelessly stranded on their own island of self-indulgent, self-protective, and self-admiring loneliness.
So we must open the most private doors of our lives to come out of our selfish hiding places to test the waters, expose a aching heart to someone else, and become as vulnerable as we have always been. The writer C.S. Lewis said, “To love is to be vulnerable.”
It is that vulnerability that scares us. We know that if we risk loving someone else, things are going to change, and change is always scary. In fact, love is the most powerful agent of change known to mankind. When we love others, our priorities are rearranged, our values are reassessed, and our relationships are restructured.
Love changes the way we look, think, talk, dress, walk and feel, not just about a special person, but about the whole world. When we love we consider the dreams and happiness of another person and voluntarily seek their happiness before our own. True love does not look for ways to cage another or keep someone for private use only. Rather, true love looks for opportunities to help others grow and then applauds their success. See the best in others, help those in need, and always forgive quickly.
If you are looking for love you must remember this: Those who are most loved always love others first.
Of all the doors in our life that we must open, the door to our heart offers the greatest opportunity for joy, as well as the most likely prospect for pain. It is an uncertain emotional investment with no guarantee of onlyfans free trial links
return. However, we must invest, the loneliness of isolation drives us; the desire for intimacy compels us; and the hope of love assures us that somehow everything will work out.
Open your heart to someone today and love them, not for what they can do for you, how they perform, or how they look, but for who they are. Love someone today and tomorrow and the past. As you do, that human-shaped void within your heart will begin to fill, because the more you love, the more you will be loved.